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You're the better person here.
and you have a child to consider.
You and the child come first. Dont let anyone play mind games with you or have a choke hold on your emotions/ability to move on.
A man should not have a hold on your happiness. It's 2006 and you're a strong educated woman. You can take care of you
guys I know I need to think of myself here, and I have to some extent, but my world came crashing down, and I have to pick itup
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I know....I really do and I have tried to eat and have been going to work I have tried to do productive things....I just hurt so bad right now and there is nothing that can be done.
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I have been there. It is one of the worst feelings I have ever felt. I tried everything to shake it. One thing I did was buy a Kawasaki Ninja. Then I decided to quit my job therefore lost the Ninja. I stayed drunk everyday. I always kept a 5th of something in my vehicle and started on it first thing every morning. All that made things worse! I thought of doing alot of bad things to myself. Then finally I met my wife now and have three beautifull daughters. I tell you right now gal the only way for you is up. I cant tell you to forget about this guy because you wont be able to. I can tell you to ride the bumpy road on out because you will get over this. Always keep yourself with a friend and try not to be alone at this time. This will help. Also pull out the good book and call up on the Lord. He will send you comfort. Just dont do anything bad. You have way too many loved ones that care about you!
the way i see it, if he is someone who would leave you at a time when you need him...he is not someone you need to waste any time crying over
from what ive seen you post, youre a pretty remarkable person...some jerk just lost a lot and he should be the one in pain and you should be the one who is looking forward
so what does a fat single person around here anyway lol
Don't put yourself through this for him or anybody else. I am going to assume from your post, and I may have misunderstood, that this must be his idea. If so he is NOT worth all the torment. Let it go and get on with your life.
Woah, caught off guard by this I was.
First off, its going to hurt, if it didn't hurt, you didn't care, and we know thats not the case. Second, don't expect to feel better immediately, same notion as the first. If you put anything into a relationship, its going to hurt for a bit. Third, don't be self destructive. You're self destructive, you let them win. Now I don't know you, or if I do know you don't know that I know you, but you don't strike me as someone who likes to give in and let someone win. You've got MS, that means you're a battler. The first thing you have to do is pick yourself up, look at what you got good, and say well D-A-M-N they are going to regret this. Life throws us all curveballs, and they wouldn't be good curves if we expected it. I always told one of my friends, and told myself this more than once, sometimes crappy things have to happen to get us to the right place to be happy. Sometimes it is absolutely horrible things, but when you get the happiness later, the horrible stuff doesn't seem so bad. You're a battler. Take care of yourself first. Getting sick and ending up in the hospital isn't going to help you feel better about things, if anything its going to make you feel worse. You can't run a marathon the first time you try to run. You have to build yourself up to it. A few small steps, fix something to eat, just small steps and you'll find that you can take longer walks each time. Good luck and God bless.
I can't say much more to you then what I told you when I was at your place Tuesday night, but to recap things for folks here: I cannot put into words the amount of respect that I have for you. You have overcome so much-having Ky as a baby yourself, MS, and much more, and in spite of these odds, you refused to become a statistic, and became a successful professional woman. I love you dearly sis. I thank God that we have been so close for well over a decade. He is going to see what he threw away. You have a daughter to look out for. Men may be temporary, but self-respect is forever. NEVER sell yourself short. You did everything for him, did everything to make it work on your end. He is destined to be a loser. You had to push him to get him to get off of his can to do anything. Unambitious louse. You have always been a fighter, and this is another battle. You are tougher than you think lady. Lorrie Morgan sings "I Didn't Know My Own Strength". That song has been going through my head as of late.
You always seem like a very strong lady. So fall back on what got you to where you are.
Be strong and build on the person you are. If you let you go, who wins? No one.
You have others that need you also.
The pain will ease in time. And as a person who is highly intelligent you have to go through the stages. As i know you know.
But you know also.
You have to keep yourself going, because you are the one who has to make things work.
Bare that chin one more time. And get back up and keep on going.
Guys I know I can survive, it is just hard ya know. I mean I want so much for it work and so much for him to be here. I have to grieve my loss and my mind is so messed up right now.....